Why does a company have no problem turning me down, but when i turn down a potential employer-they act miffed?

i have been on numerous (NUMEROUS is emphasized here!) interviews in the last few months and each one i am either turned down or i have decided that the job is not for me. when i politely turn down the position with a legitimate reason, the person on the recieving end always seems put out? for example i went on an interview a few weeks ago and they emphasized to me that there really was no room for advancement. i have a bachelors degree and would like to EVENTUALLY advance doing something other than 9.00 p/h CSR work and preferably with the same company. the HR person was like " i think that they emphasized that notion too much blah blah blah"... and she seemed miffed by my wanting more out of the position.


i guess i feel bad b/c although most companies i have interviewed with don't have a problem with wasting my time, i feel bad for potentially wasting their time? I guess I am venting- not looking for a "yahooanswer" haa haa. i am sure somebody has had this experience too!

Why does a company have no problem turning me down, but when i turn down a potential employer-they act miffed?
I think that employers often have an inflated self-worth about themselves and the job that they have available. I think the prevailing sense is that employers are doing you a favor bestowing an interview on you.





I've interviewed and lived in about a half dozen cities and the places where this sentiment is most prevalent is the areas where the job market is most depressed.





Don't feel like you are wasting the time of interviewers. You are simply getting to know more about the company - just as they are getting to know about you. Employers certainly don't feel bad (most of the time!) rejecting you for a job - so you shouldn't feel bad if you reject the job.





Hang in there and perservere - looking for a job is tough but there's a great job out there. You just have to "kiss a lot of toads" to find it.





Julie
Reply:Those in upper management and hiring positions think their time is more valuable than yours. In point of fact, they are paid more and results are expected more quickly when there is a problem for them to handle, such as the hiring of a new employee. They interview countless possible employees and finally narrow it down to the one they think is the best choice. They are fairly confident that they made the right choice so (of course) they believe they are special enough to be the person's choice, as well. They call the person back and say, "yes, we have chosen to hire you," and then talk about salary and possible advancement. After all their certainty and inflated ego over position, is it any surprise that they are cross when a potential employee refuses to work for them?





All this reminds me of my friend. She's been looking for a job for 1-2 months now and not one of the openings seems to have real possibility. Most of those hiring take one look at her long and varied career history and don't bother to pay attention to her qualifications before they refuse to hire her. One potential employer allowed her to hear as it was discussed how the hiring would be handled. The woman doing the hiring, in speaking to her boss, said, "well, if I don't like them I'm going to tell them that there are no positions open right now."





Ironic how it all works! A good potential employee comes up and goes through the whole rigamorole to get their application put in and be considered for the job, but those hiring often bypass the best potential employees and then wonder how they got lazy lay-abouts that don't do a good job and quit as soon as they have another job lined up (which they also lay around on and then quit). Of course, then the companies have to hire someone else and are jaded by the past bad employee and so expect that the next one will be the same.





Good luck on the job search. I hope you find the one that is right for you and that they hire you and you are happy there.
Reply:Since the job market is so tight right now, most applicants would jump on any job. I guess that's why most potential employers seem miffed when an applicant turns THEM down.





It's also very expensive for a company to go through the recruiting and hiring phases. So they want to get that completed as fast as possible. The hiring staff generally extends an offer to an applicant they feel will accept the position. So when the applicant doesn't accept, I guess they could feel as though they totally misread the person.

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