Don't know if I want to separate from hubby.....everything is in my name...?

Idon't want to divorce my husband, only separate for a few months. Lately, we have argued so much. My daughter is 2 mos. and I have not been able to find a job, not even part time. I'm pursuing my Masters and I got nothing. My husband yelled at me today about the house not being clean, not cooking, %26amp; I sat there and just cried. I haven't cooked b/c we haven't had the money. He's the only one working. He accuses me of sitting on my butt all day...I yelled back that I sit %26amp; take care of a 2 month old, keep up with readings for school %26amp; do papers, looking on HotJobs and Careerbuilder for a job, go on interviews and I have to take her to daycare, in which I have been late to 2 interviews b/c of my babies crying %26amp; temperament, keep the house as clean as I can, haul a carseat and stuff to run errands. I feel so underappreciated, I even baked him a chocolate cake 3 days ago to show I'm grateful. He complained. I just want to leave 4 awhile. He doesn't want counseling...What to do????

Don't know if I want to separate from hubby.....everything is in my name...?
Running away won't solve your problems. You two need to sit down together and plan a budget, chores, child care, and discuss what each of you would like from the other. You have a baby to think of now. You can't just go home to mommy and daddy, besides what if it back fires on you and he finds it's a lot easier to not have to worry about you or the baby! If your going to make your marriage work now is the time to do it. If money is that tight where you don't have food in the house to cook then you need to apply for public assistance! Get help! It takes two to make it and it takes two to break it, don't give up and run away, talk to him!
Reply:I am also pursuing my Masters.





AND I work full time and go to school in the evenings.





Seriously, if you cannot feed your family, you really need to get out there and get work.





Oh and leaving him will never make him "realize" anything. He treats you like you have taught him to treat you.





Please do not even think about having another baby until you get this mess resolved. You both are clearly speaking different languages of love here.
Reply:I realize you are working for your masters but if you cannot afford food then just get a job (any job) then you can continue to look for a job in your field. I don't care if it is flipping burgers, anything is better than nothing. Separation DOES not fix problems it just is a step toward divorce. It sounds as though both of you need to grow up and work together.

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