Don't know if I want to separate from wifey.....everything is in my name...?

Idon't want to divorce my wife, only separate for a few months. Lately, we have argued so much. My son is 2 mos. and I have not been able to find a job, not even part time. I'm pursuing my Masters and I got nothing. My wife yelled at me today about the house not being clean, not cooking, %26amp; I sat there and just cried. I haven't cooked b/c we haven't had the money. She's the only one working. She accuses me of sitting on my butt all day...I yelled back that I sit %26amp; take care of a 2 month old, keep up with readings for school %26amp; do papers, looking on HotJobs and Careerbuilder for a job, go on interviews and I have to take him to daycare, in which I have been late to 2 interviews b/c of my babies crying %26amp; temperament, keep the house as clean as I can, haul a carseat and stuff to run errands. I feel so underappreciated, I even baked her a chocolate cake 3 days ago to show I'm grateful. She complained. I just want to leave 4 awhile. She doesn't want counseling...What to do????

Don't know if I want to separate from wifey.....everything is in my name...?
Here is a question that you might want to answer, girly man.





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Reply:I realize you are working for your masters but if you cannot afford food then just get a job (any job) then you can continue to look for a job in your field. I don't care if it is flipping burgers, anything is better than nothing. Separation DOES not fix problems it just is a step toward divorce. It sounds as though both of you need to grow up and work together.





This question was just posted with the roles reversed but it still merits the same answer.
Reply:Stand up and be a man by doing what she wants you to do !
Reply:I can see both sides of this argument. It is definitely a tough road. I have been on both sides, and neither is any fun.





My suggestion to you is to talk to the career counselor at your college. Surely someone there can help. Seek out the local assistance agencies and see if they can help. The local hospitals and nursing homes might also be willing to work around your school schedule.





The two of you need to sit down and regroup. It is not easy for either of you to do what you are doing, especially with a young one in the mix. But trust me, the two of you are doing this baby no favor by screaming at each other every day.





So, see if you can get someone to care for the little one for a few hours, and sit down and talk. Not scream and yell and accuse, TALK. Express to her that you are dedicated to finding a job, AND MEAN IT. Get your butt out there! Let her know that you understand that she works hard all day, but that a family is a TEAM EFFORT.





Keep your chin up my friend. If the two of you are TRUE partners, then you will weather this storm.
Reply:Didn't you just ask this quetion as the female? See my answer to that question it would be the same.





Madame Jazzy indeed!
Reply:Hang on if you can. I am sure she is under a lot of stress to being the bread winner. I know what you are doing is very stress full to but if you two love each other try and make it work.
Reply:This is a high stress time for all. You are doing the right thing! Just hang in there, she is under stress because you are not working and you are under stress because you are not working. Patience and Endure is what you all have to do. I suggest that you all get into a good bible-faith-church and start talking to some wise Godly counsel. You all need to vent to Godly people so you won't get the wrong advice or do something you will regret. You are the head of the house and you are responsible for her and the baby. You can't just separate from them because of this. I suggest taking any job until another opportunity comes along. A degree don't spell top-notch, take what you can get and work your way up as time goes on. You know you have a degree and you know what you are worth but right now you need peace in your home, so take the low road and bring that peace you two are dying for. Don't ever take the coward way out and run from a problem, face the problem head on and watch things will work out. Yes, this is a bump in the road but it will get smooth in time just keep driving. Pray and put the Lord first. Pray together as a family to release this burden.
Reply:i'm in a simular situation. try sitting down with ur wife and telling her ur doin ur best....