Need help right now!!! What should I do?

To make a long story short, there is a man I have secretly been seeing at work. He is a lot older than me, and I dont think he wants it to be anything too serious (but we havent talked about it yet). We have been having sex for awhile. I used to be very cautious, and when I was like that he chased me like a dog. I then decided to begin to let my guard down a little and I feel like he is losing interest.





Anyways, we had made plans to hang out tonight (b/c we have hung out the past 6 thursdays in a row). He is not in the office today b/c he is interviewing people, and he has not texted me yet. It is 2:00 already, and i feel like i shouldnt text him first b/c it shows that he's not interested. Should I text him? and what time do I give him until before I decide not to hang out with him? And is he just using me (p.s. most of the time we hang out we go for dinner, go for drinks and usually have sex its the same all the time)...please let me know what you think

Need help right now!!! What should I do?
This is an older guy who is using you to feel young. You are so much better than this. As a guy, I've known lots of guys like this. To him, you're only a piece of meat. You're someone he's willing to spend a few bucks on so he can get in your pants and nothing more. It's obvious he has no interest in you as a person.





So the short answer is no, don't text him. Don;t ever respond to him again. You're worth so much more than this guy.
Reply:First, I'm curious on what's the age gap? Secondly, I don't want to sound harsh or make you feel bad, but I think this realationship was only physical, considering when you let your guard down you began to feel that he lost interest. I would lay low until he contacts me, observe his behavior in the office, and if you all hang out again, see what happens if you don't have sex. I agree with another answer, I think you deserve better. Go and find you someone who is compatible to you and will appreciate you even when you let your guard down.
Reply:throw him over bored, and get a real man in your life.. you deserve better.


In less you think there is any chance the might really want to be w/ you then sit down and talk to him.
Reply:Is he using you? Wow you dont have a realtionship but you hang out and have sex with each other...Tell me what you think?





Is he married?


Maybe thats why its only dinner and drink and sex...anyway








Just send him a text and say " Hey just wonder how your day is? And by the way r we still hanging out 2nite".
Reply:unless the guy is married, which im assuming he's not, you should just forget about him. i hate to say it, but it seems like he is using you. my advice, don't text him first. if he doesn't reply back, oh well! theres another billion out there and he's not even worth it. and if you start acting like you're not interested, he might start coming after you again (you said it yourself, he did it in the beginning). but if he's already getting sex, their isn't much of a challenge anymore. if he does text you and asks to hang out, go out with him and don't have sex with him. if he's really interested in you, he won't make such a big deal about it. if not, then you can really find out for yourself if he's using you and move on if thats the case.
Reply:he has lost some interest honey, let it until its 4.30 and if he hasnt txtd by then just make yourself a new plan. dont let him take over you..
Reply:text him and ask if your still on for tonight. If he doesnt text back or makes an excuse then move on..





But make sure its only ONE text and short and simple like


"we still on for tonight?" and THATS IT
Reply:well ask him if u guys can add some new stuff to ur schedule like sexy dancing or seeing a movie together. then ask him if u were to ask if eh wanted to get serious would he?
Reply:You are his thursday night girl. If you are 'secretly seeing' him, there are others on the same line. He probably has one for the other 6 nights as well. Find a real man that doesn't need to have casual sex with women in order to feel like a man. You need to talk about what kind of a relationship you are going to have with a man, BEFORE you get naked with him.
Reply:If that is what you do all the time he is useing you and you should let him go on his own and leave him you can do better than thatt
Reply:Tell him how you feel so that both of you will be on the same page. Let him know that these past weeks, you have fallen for him. Nothing is better than getting your questions answered from that person. And you need to know that if you do ask him you need to accept the answer he gives you whether if he just like to hang out with you or he is serious with you. You really need to ask him yourself, because if you really think about it, you see him in the office but don't get to hang out with him until Thrusdays. What is he doing on the other days? Is he with someone else? or too busy for you? Because when someone likes you they try their best to make time for you, because seeing you and holding you is the best thing ever. Now with the texting, wait a little bit longer, like before you get off of work you can say something like: hey we're still up for tonight right? : this sounds more like friends hanging out, if you say anything else then it turns to being disperate.
Reply:He just wanted to see if he was able to have a younger woman. He got that. Now he doesn't need to chase you anymore because he already proved he can catch a younger girl and have sex with her. The thrill is gone for him. Find a guy your own age.
Reply:He's married, and you should leave him alone. He probably has other girls meet him on other nights too [you have Thursdays, Mary has Mondays-just so he can keep you all straight] or that is the night he tells his wife he "HAS" to work late. Don't be a fool, RUN.





\Don't text him, and if he texts you, tell him you'll meet him at his house so you can make dinner for him, and tell him you already have the directions to his house [even if you don't].. If he gives you an excuse why you can't go there----He's married. RUN
Reply:id say he is usin u for his own needs nd knos u are lettin him get to u which takes his fun away i wud suggest puttin yah guard bk up or sniff bout a lil bit nd find out wht hes up 2 im sure some of his lad m8s cud tell u stuff.





If u really like him tht is.





if not thn jst stop hangin out wif him nd move on lol well thts it hoped i helped.